Capital Naturals Recap!

Happy Sunday, everyone! The weekend is almost over, how is yours going? Saturday was pretty awesome for me, I’m about to tell you one of the reasons why.

So yesterday was the first ever Natural hair meet-up in Abuja, the ‘Capital Naturals’ meet-up at the Casalinda Hotel in Maitama. It was brought to us by these three nice naturalistas- Natmane, Natural Nigerian and Bibi Naturals. I quite liked the venue. It was a nice cosy place, with a warm, very intimate feel. I don’t like crowded spaces, and I’ve never been a fan of big big spaces- so it was just right for me.

Good vibes were radiating all around- there were over thirty naturalistas there (present and future), some rocking their hair in different ways (too bad I didn’t take photos), some guys even came out with their women which I thought was really cute.

MY BAD

I was actually late >_< The time stated on the flyer was 1330-1730, but I wasn’t sure if 1:30 was really going to be 1:30, or 1:30 African time, my bad. By the time I was ready to head out, my cab guy took almost an hour to get here! Bwari is like 40 minutes away from main Abuja town, so by the time I got there I was really late! I got there at about 3, and I regretted being late as soon as I walked in.

ON THE BRIGHT SIDE,

I didn’t miss everything. I caught the last 5 minutes of Bibi Naturals’ presentation. Natural Nigerian had already done her thing before that, so I probably missed some really good stuff! (‘probably’ is me trying to make myself feel better) Then there was an interactive Q & A session; we asked, they answered.

After this session, we listened to NatMane tell us about Natural hair products that can be easily found around us. Like really there are quite a lot of things grown or you could grow, things used in our culture, for us to work with. Her hair is so full and long! Loved her twist-out! You could find out what I learnt in the next post, I didn’t want this to be too long.

GOODIES

There were two giveaways (I didn’t know the answers to the questions cos I missed the first two presentations, shame) and there was also a raffle at the Kinky Apothecary stand! Lumo Naturals, Bibi Naturals and Natural Nigerian also had their stands. I got me some very yummy cocoa butter, tea tree Essential oil and an Aloe + Coconut Clay Bar. Did I mention that there were free coconut oil samples for everyone? 😀

AMEN

It was a wonderful afternoon. I learnt a lot. I am shy, but I actually got to speak with some cool people. Baby steps to networking and ting. My only regret is not getting there early enough. There’s going to be another event in the first quarter of next year, so no excuses, better planning, I’m going to be there, God keeping me. 🙂

And I’ll be early too. Oh yes.

A Letter to My Baby Afro

P.S. I revised my regimen in a later post. I don’t want to take this post down because this is my hair diary, so I’m chronicling my discoveries- hits and misses. Mistakes are welcome. The information about the products is alright, but the proper way to moisturise and seal is addressed in this post, here.

Getting to know you…

Should I give you a name? I’m big on names. I have always liked to name inanimate objects that mean a lot to me. You are not inanimate though. You’re a part of me, living, breathing, getting your own bit of the nutrients I ingest- hmmm this thinking hasn’t ever stopped people from naming their privates though. Okay, no name. You are a part of me, you are me. My hair. Mine.

I’ve kind of forgotten what June was like, we spent it together. You weren’t hidden under any weave or meshed in any braids or twists. Which is kind of why I’m writing this down now, cos I forget things, probably cos I never pay enough attention. I want to get to know you, so I have to pay attention to what you say. By saying I have to, I don’t mean that I’m doing this begrudgingly, no. You’re important to me; I want to pay attention, to figure out what makes you tick. Baby steps though, I’m trying to keep it simple- MOISTURISE, AND SEAL.

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keeping it simple, my tiny stash.

You are so stubborn, gosh- just like me. Combing is a little discouraging, it is such a task! I haven’t got the hang of this yet. I get you your water in the mornings. I let you drink for fifteen minutes before I dry you just enough not to drip, and seal with coconut oil (though I always feel like I’m not putting enough, but I ignore this feeling anyway, lest I finish my bottle in a day) My coconut oil is fractionated, because the native coconut oil I had before was much too nutty for me, I could almost not stand it. As the third step, I’m very generous with the yummy Cantu Shea Butter Leave-In Conditioning Repair Cream. It is made of Pure shea butter, Aloe juice, Canola Oil, Sage, Rosemary, Kiwi, and Olive oil, amongst other things- yummmmm! It smells good too.

Then I comb and comb- first with my wide-toothed comb, and then with my metal-pronged afro comb.

I co-washed today, with the Suave Naturals Aloe & Water lily conditioner. The last time I co-washed was Sunday. I’m supposed to co-wash in the middle of the week, and have a proper wash day on Saturday or Sunday. I haven’t entirely worked out a wash day routine yet, but it should be a day of pampering. I’ll be deep conditioning with the Aubrey Organics Honeysuckle & Rose Moisturising Conditioner, and I should try a hot oil treatment as well. I’ll keep you posted.

The Cantu product promises to stop and mend hair breakage, leave hair soft, shiny and manageable. It is also specially formulated for severely damaged, dry or coarse hair. You’re rather dry and coarse so I’m going to be patient and see how you like it over time. It does take a while to dissolve though. When I put it in, I have to wait like twenty minutes for it to disappear, for you to absorb it all.

So far, I haven’t once forgotten to cover you with my satin bonnet or scarf before I lay down to sleep. I’m on the lookout for a satin pillowcase.

I’m not sure if I’m doing one thing right though- the combing. I only attempt combing when you’re wet, and I try to comb from the ends to the roots, but every time I put a comb in, there’s a lot lost on the comb. I’m worried. I don’t think this is how it’s supposed to be, gatts ask people, and do my research.

I got my stuff (everything except the Suave conditioner and the Cantu shea butter leave in conditioning repair cream) from ‘the first natural hair store in Lagos’, the Kinky Apothecary. You could check them out 🙂

While I’m trying to figure this out, do you have any suggestions or advice on how to deal with this breakage? They’d be really really appreciated. 🙂 

Do you, or did you have a Teeny Weeny Afro? What products do you or did you use? What is or was your regimen? Do share!

Thank you for reading

xx

The Journey So Far: 5 Months Natural

Hey there. By reading this blog, you’re going through my hair diary- with the occasional post about something unrelated to hair, but matters to me anyway- so how do you feel, being privy to all this private info? Pretty special? Lol do you even care? Wait. You must care, why else would you be here? I kid, I kid. 🙂

I took my braids out last Monday, and got my trim! A proper trim, from someone that knows her stuff! Yes, now I can start afresh.

I’m going to be taking my hair really seriously now. It has been 14 months since I last used a relaxer, and six months since my big chop- so I don’t know what to call this, a re-chop? I feel like I’m now starting over.

When I did my BC in May, my mom was not in support of my decision. She said a mean thing or two the night before, but somehow, it strengthened or did not affect my resolve to go do it anyway. Now, she’s more accepting, and I’m very happy about this.

AN OBSERVATION

Some people are so averse to the system of Hair Typing, I wonder why. As a new naturalista trying to understand your hair, it would be helpful to know, have an idea about your hair type, so that you’d be less easily confused or perplexed. There are different hair types, and each type has its own characteristics. Some styles may be easier to do for a certain hair type, certain products may be especially good for a certain type and unnecessary for another. So when you read a blog or see a youtube video of someone doing something and it doesn’t turn out the same for you, you shouldn’t get so worked up. So when you’re looking for a hair video to watch, or trying to find a solution to a particular issue, it would help to look to people with the same hair type as you, in addition to searching generally. And yes, it is possible to have two, maybe three different hair types on your one head.

If you’d like to figure out what your hair type is, this guide from naturallyCurly could help. You could go to it here- http://www.naturallycurly.com/hair-types

My hair is like the coiliest of coilies lol I think they call that Hair Type 4C. My hair is coarse, and dense, with a dry disposition.

BAD HABIT

I’m still in the TWA stage and I just got my trim, I can’t be worrying about length just yet. My hair is so coily, there’s a lot of shrinkage. My new bad habit is playing with my hair; I enjoy pulling it, stretching it, to see how long it’d be if it were straight. No bueno. So easy for me to look like a crazy person after only a few hours. x_x I’m working on this though.

HE SAID, SHE SAID

My hair journey is all about me of course, but I find other people’s reactions to my hair interesting. Of the comments I’ve received over the past seven days, none have been negative. Half of them have been positive “Aww I like your hair!”, and the other half from people who wanted to know why I’d choose to stress myself this way, or why I just want this change. Some guy said he didn’t expect me to have a Nigerian name when he saw my “unique hair”. O_o Obviously, some people need to get out more. Haha. It’s all good!

It was a really hot sunny day, hence my squinting in the photo. Harmattan is here. I hate the heat, but Rainy season is only fun when you have nothing to do, and nowhere to go. This year, I think the rains have been more intense than they should be. Sigh, climate change.

New posts coming up in a bit, I’ll be back soon!

xx

EATING OUT: DA MARIA ITALIAN RESTAURANT & DELICATESSEN

What do you think about going out to eat alone? Have you tried it, or thought about it? Was it awkward or weird? Do you think it would be? Especially if you’re a female, some people may just presume that you’re waiting for someone. Even worse when it takes a century for your meal to arrive.

Are you perfectly comfortable in your own skin? You’re doing your own thing, and you believe the people giving you pitying glances are the ones that are sad, not you. You’re living your life, and they are very welcome to watch you live it.

I think it’s important that I’m comfortable doing anything, or going anywhere by myself. I’m not 100% there yet, but hopefully, soon. Some people think going to see a movie on your own is sad. This makes me wonder because I’m going to see the movie, not anyone, so why should my lack of a partner matter? I had to ask myself this question again, a few weeks ago, but not about a movie though.

I spotted Da Maria Italian Food & Delicatessen on my second day in Abuja, and I immediately made a mental note to check it out. Three months later, I finally got to go. I went to lunch there (a little late though. What’s the ‘brunch’ of lunch and supper?), with my friend D two weeks ago.

I got to the restaurant first, and my friend D met me there soon enough. If D hadn’t agreed to go with me, then I would have come alone, and I worried that it might be awkward. While I was there, I found myself thinking that it would not have been. I got there, and I was greeted by a friendly waiter-“Table for one?” I settled in, and I was actually the only other person in the room till D came. It was a pretty, well spaced, well lit place. I liked the simple decor and the soft Italian music. I felt like I was in a cosy, warm(I’m not talking about the room temperature), homely dining room. I loved the ambience, the food really kept me occupied, I really wouldn’t mind being there alone.

We didn’t have to wait long (say, ten minutes) before we were presented with our first courses, and the next course came just as we were finishing our firsts, and the third came before we were done with our seconds. The portions were generous, and we really couldn’t finish every single one.

Da Maria Italian Restaurant & Delicatessen
Up up we go

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Da Maria Italian Restaurant & Delicatessen
My lovely friend D

Da Maria Italian Restaurant & Delicatessen
Carpaccio Carne- beef carpaccio with rocket, parmesan cheese and lemon.

Da Maria Italian Restaurant & Delicatessen
Spaghetti Carbonara

Da Maria Italian Restaurant & Delicatessen
Filleto Merluzzo Con Patate (the Codfish dish)

yayy fish ( ._.)

Da Maria Italian Restaurant & Delicatessen
The Deli

Da Maria Italian Restaurant & Delicatessen
bye! 🙂